
So far in this journey I have ran into people who have complimented my Sisterlocks, and others who really don't know what to say. I am appreciative of any compliment but I really am not moved by any nay-sayers. No matter what people say, those of us who have committed to natural hair are not moved by their lack of understanding why we go natural. At the same time I hope to inspire those who may be interested in going natural, but just feel like they can't take that step. It is definately a decision that you have to be comitted to. If not, you may not fully embrace it and therefore you may not stick with the journey. My hair has been touched, gently pulled on, and looked through by friends and inquisitive strangers. I am glad to know that they are curious!
Well anyway I had a conversation with a dear friend of mine who started out by complimenting my locks. She explained that she did not feel they would look good on her. She was also not satisfied with the cute haircut that she had. She wanted it to look exactly like another individual's haircut. Now I don't know if she didn't realize it or not, but that individual was of a different persuasion. HELLO. She naturally had STRAIGHT hair, without any chemicals. Therefore dyes and highlights were as easy as coloring eggs, because it was being applied to natural hair. She could not seem to understand why her hair could not look like this other lady's haircut. I wanted to just stare at her hoping that she would play rewind in her own mind, but I realized it would not have mattered. She was taken to a place called, OUT THERE SOMEWHERE, where bone straight hair was the only "ACCEPTABLE" way to wear your hair. We have had talks before and I was really not in the mood to talk to a wall, or to become one myself. So I started out slowly by saying, that is how her hair naturally lays without any relaxers or serious manipulation besides maybe a blowdryer. I explained all that she had to go through in order for her own hair to be straight. The damage from chemicals, thinning, burning, irritation, breakage and so much more. Yet still she was not satisfied with it. I really thought her haircut was cute. I explained to her how it seems that as soon as her beautiful roots came up out of her scalp she was saying to herself and God, "I am not happy with the way I was created let me change it to look like your other creations." That saying is something that really stuck with me personally as I have made my decision to go natural. I went on to explain that makeup and wardrobe can easily be washed off and removed and how both are worn for protection and enhancement i, but chemically altering your hair is permanent damage. I told her how I became interested in going natural. It was something that I was interested in since the summer of 1996. I was searching and wondering what our Creator's intentions were for us to look like naturally. Just think, we were not born with a box perm in our hands, makeup or clothing for that matter. Of course like I forestated makeup and clothing can EASILY COME OFF, but not a relaxer. Now if our hair would just go natural IT WILL LOCK ON ITS OWN. Mmmmm... interesting! So everyone is unique and beautiful in their own way. Sometimes, as ladies we struggle with seeing our own beauty, whether it's from our hearts or outer appearance. I know that I struggled with that and still seek the Lord's strength in those areas. Knowing that on the inside is where true beauty comes from, is the beginning to truly getting to know who you are. So I encouraged her to embrace herself... completely! Let me ask you,the reader a question, what inspired you to go natural? And for those of you who are not, what is holding you back? Please don't be afraid to be the you that you were created to be. No matter what, it is your choice . I look forward to reading your comments.:)
Tuesday, January 27, 2009
Two months today! I just have a question for you...
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